Life is About Stages
This is the very first house I ever owned. For way too many years I fixed up rental hovels trying to make downright nasty into liveable. Now I am able to take all those skills I had to do, into making this home pretty and comfortable.
The Mom Stage
A single Mom to three little boys, I learned that you can sew napkins and fold them nicely, instead of fancy dishes, find a recipe no one else has and make gifts for friends, taught my sons all sorts crafts they in turn shared with their friends. Bartered tutoring for furniture, baking for free mechanical work, bake pies for the cost of the ingredients, and then shared half of them in return. I never ever forget there are still far too many women where I once was, scrambling to make a life for themselves and their babes on their own.
Then my three sons grew up, became men, and left home. Freedom from all that solo Mom responsibility. I was able to buy new dishes and matching cutlery, sparkly Christmas stuff, even a sewing machine.
The Career Focused Stage
I worked all the time the boys were growing, A job was our security, and after the boys left I worked harder at it. I loved every single minute of it. The business clothes, the meetings, the underground parking, networking. Then poof the Engineering firm I worked at crashed, as did the economy here, two week’s later the career was gone.
The Old Lady Stage
When did I turn 55, how did that happen? I met my hubs, we renovated two houses he owned, sold them, and bought this one. It feels like a castle to me, I enjoy decorating it, fixing it, redesigning it, making it our own.
The Blogging Stage
I blog for various reasons. It’s a creative outlet, I need to learn all kinds of technical skills, it gives me something to strive for and achieve. I still get to write tutorials, like I did in my previous career. I am challenged. Blogging also helps me prevent loneliness.
Blogging gives me a venue for sharing and inspiring other women. My goal with Faeries and Fauna is to share that even if not perfect, we can be pretty darn good. We don’t all have large budgets or spectacular homes, but making something out of nothing is an achievement to be proud of.
Finally, if I can comfort one struggling single Mom, that she can do it, her kids can grow up happy, resilient and content. That with the struggle comes skills and with practice confidence.
Since starting Faeries and Fauna, I have had a few readers reach out to personally tell me I helped or inspired them. How amazing is that?